What do you stand for?
“Dad? We’d like to check out your son,” said the labor and delivery nurse.
Without letting go, my husband instinctively and protectively cradled our firstborn in his arms as he walked over to the nurses so they could do their routine postnatal check.
Then I heard him say, “No.”
He and I along with our midwife previously discussed the type of care we wanted from the birthing staff during and after our child’s birth. In that moment, I witnessed my husband standing by what we agreed to.
I was in awe. My husband embodied being a stand for our son and from that place was empowered to make decisions that were in alignment with our commitment. Needless to say the nurse was taken a bit aback from his refusing a certain, common treatment, but my husband stood tall and firm and grounded – energetically and physically. Because he was clear on the why (or for the sake of what) behind our post-birth protocol wishes, he felt emboldened to stand for our values and our standards as parents.
My husband and I as new parents created standards based on what we care about and what is important to us. In turn, those standards set healthy and clear boundaries.
Looking back, I see how as a couple, we used language in a powerful way to declare what type of care we want for our son and in a larger context, what we stand for as his parents and what we are willing to fight for. From that, we took on the leadership stance of creating a context in which we developed a strong, shared understanding of what is acceptable and not acceptable for our son and how we want him to be treated and related to in the world — which ultimately impacts how he relates to himself as a growing individual and future leader. Through language we created a world.
This is no small act here. There is a lot at stake. In this case, our son’s life!
Creating our stand and being in regular conversation about it together as parents has helped us form a solid, unified partnership. It helps us navigate the world and move with integrity and dignity and confidence – even if the path we choose is the unpopular or progressive one.
It goes without saying that the practice of being a stand for something is a critical one. It can save your life.
So I leave you with these questions to ponder:
- What do you care deeply about?
- What is your stand in that matter?
- What commitments are you going to take and embody inside of that stand?
- Why is your stand and commitment so important to you? (For the sake of what or who is it taking care of?)
- ….And do you dare to share that with others?
Here’s to standing for something that matters,
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- A stay-at-home mother of many years gains the confidence to return to the office.
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Each of these success stories emerged from inspired action. Something that is possible for everyone. Including you.
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Here are the course details:
SESSION 1: It’s all about being clear about your vision – which we create based on what you care about. This is fundamental and lays the groundwork for everything we do going forward. It makes decision making so much easier.
SESSION 2: This is the vital next step. This is where we break down the barriers to your success. In this session I teach you how to see how you’re getting in your own way and grow more productive.
SESSION 3: This is really the kicker. Our moods and emotions drive most everything we do – and don’t want to do. I’ll show you how to expand your emotional range so you are better equipped to achieve greater success – and deeper fulfillment.
SESSION 4: This session is powerful. Making it happen. We need other people in order to achieve our goals. From your spouse, to your kids to your boss, friends and neighbors. I’ll show you how to ask for help in ways that inspire them to want to.
SESSION 5: We look in depth at how to navigate through communication breakdowns. These are unavoidable. We look at how to build or rebuild trust, create meaningful relationships and build stronger friendships – all which not only increases the success factor, but the happiness factor too.
SESSION 6: Here we put it all together. Practice makes perfect practice. With repetition and intention and awareness, we create new neural pathways for conscious habits. It takes 300 times to learn something and 3000 to form it into an automatic habit. To create change, we need to form new habits – which will support you in stepping into a powerful future of your own design.